Thoughts on Love

This is a beautiful perspective on soul mates and love. There are just times when it’s said so well I can’t add a thing to it.

It was written by Dov Baron, whose other insights can be found at http://www.dovbaron.com/category/relationship

Enjoy. — Mary Jo

Beloved Soulmate
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At one time or another we have all feared love, bolting the door and refusing to let it in.

There have been times when we have craved love and when a thin malnourished version of itself sneaks in through the back door we hold on too tight.

Fearing love and craving love are two sides of the same coin…

Both can have us holding on to someone or something so desperately that we squeeze all the life out of it.

When you learn to love yourself you will embrace love, even knowing that its encounter may wound you. For love itself cannot wound; only the illusion of love paid for with currency of self respect leaves us wounded and emotionally bankrupt. From this bankruptcy of the heart many try to quit, swearing off love, rather than swearing off the illusions placed upon it.

There are also those who have been wounded and they learn; they know these are not the wounds of the weak; these are the wounds that empower us to return to a deeper place of love. For the potion with which we bathe and heal the wounds of love’s encounters is a rich distillation of self and mutual respect.

Only by learning to love yourself can you truly recognize love when it arrives at your door. However, without knowing and embracing self respect, true love will remain hidden from you as the greatest mystery of life.

To know love, we must take a chance at love. Love is the baptism that has and that can, if we let it, cleanse the heart, soul and mind of all its illusions. However, what the mind and body combined call love can also be the author of illusion.

To truly know the depth of this life we must be willing to engage in the adventure of a lifetime, knowing that love has the power to crush us under foot and at the same time raise us on the wings of angels to the heights we could have only dreamed.

Love is the rain that falls on the dry seed of our soul; it fertilizes and nourishes that which has lain dormant in the desert of fear. Through love we learn to question our limitations so as to express our soul’s purpose.

To truly love we must rid ourselves of the fears that keep us silent and lazy.

We must never settle for a mere scent or flavour of love; we must not settle for the idea of love. For the true heart, the true soul has both patience and courage, for they know love is the holy grail we all seek, if only secretly.

So have patience, because waiting for love gives you the time to earn the gift of true self love without which you would never know that depth that is a soul love shared.

To find, recognize and embrace your beloved you must become the beloved.

To become the beloved you must be able to be-loved. So let love in through the front door, by first remembering that you are a gift from God whose worthiness of love is inherent, for at your essence, love is what you are.

Live and love with courage, Dov…